The Ultimate Compliment
Older women are the greatest barometer for attractiveness in a man. Most men do not understand this.
Older women, or shall we say... women of a higher vintage (😉)... are impossible to fool. They are the sharpest blades around and they see everything and process it with such velocity, speed and precision that they don't even realize they are doing it.
To be complimented by an older women is the ultimate compliment because it is raw and given only to truly stellar individuals. The reason being is, over the years, she has slowly realized how low the bar actually is in this world in almost every way. The rose-colored glasses have come off and now the desire for excellence is more prevalent (because they actually can define what "excellence" is).
Shiny objects and nice cars do nothing, typically, for an older woman. She cannot be tricked or hypnotised by glistening metal or expensive champagne. To her, these things are repulsive and only to be enjoyed as a weak secondary aspect to a truly transcendent human experience.
I remember my 20s... terrifically stupid, trying to figure out what hole to put my pickle in, and trying to figure out who i am and where I'm going. When someone doesn't have a "North" on their compass, they have nothing to relate everything to... and wind up randomly on some island eating coconuts. Which, is wonderful in a way. The random enjoyment of whatever is a freeing and beautiful thing, in itself.
We go through this then, for women around 25-30 and, for men around 35-40, we begin to find our North. This is typically why you see so many women dating older men... because when you have found your North, it becomes impossible to be around people who have not.
But older women, especially above maybe 65-70 years of age, have developed into something entirely different.
In my sales and marketing days, i did tremendous study into demographics. As i learned more about demographics, i read Leading-Edge Boomers and Seniors by Dan S. Kennedy. I realized that half of every dollar is held by people above the age of 65... which is why i decided to begin to move all marketing efforts towards that demographic.
Statistically, women above the age of 65-70, begin to look outward. They begin to care more about charity, their community and the future of the human race. Their motherly instinct grows tremendously and is such a beautiful thing.
"Charity" can only be accomplished by an internalized abundance mentality. No one starving for anything is involved in charity (unless they are doing charity in order to get approval or they have some other screw loose in their head.)
This abundance and awareness, mixed with their experience, typically makes for either a highly attuned individual who sees everything or a completely broken individual who is shut off from everything. The individual's own ideals for ethics and morality typically is what places the individual into their respective category.
But men believe that only the compliment of someone "beautiful" has meaning. That beauty is the ultimate opinion. Most men live their entire lives... working, improving, buying fancy cars, collecting "power"... all in an effort to have praise and acceptance from beauty. Beauty is salvation; beauty is their God.
This was me most of my life. I spent from age 19 until even the present on a journey to discover what it meant to be a man and how to connect with women. It was truly painful... the kind of pain that i never had with money or any other subject. I desired to be loved... but didn't realize that it was actually the desire to love.
I chased after the acceptance by something beautiful my whole life. And when i finally got it, i had no idea what to do with it. It made no sense to me because the fulfillment that i thought it would contain was not there... i thought something was wrong with me.
But, maybe in my early 30s, i started to realize how terribly shallow my mind was. And the way i began to realize this was by speaking to women and learning why they think and behave the way they do.
The age old question: "what do women want?" A question that, frankly, men PRETEND to want to know the answer to. It is very simple: "a man with purpose and drive who has many options with women (abundance), but willingly and proudly chooses HER."
So abundantly simple. Abundance, focus, desire. A desire of her. This is the ultimate combination of attraction for a woman.
There is nothing complex about this. This is not complexity, it is sophistication.
This sophistication is born from sexual abundance. Something that 99% of men do not have. Most women could snap their fingers and have hot pizza and d!ck in about 15 minutes. This is not a luxury that men have. Because it is so easily accessible, women begin to crave something with more depth... something more rare and unique. This is sophistication, not "complexity."
Most men, including myself for a vast majority of my life, live lives in quiet desperation. We need to be "tough" so we never dare show how sad and lonely we really are. Then we believe we can trick women by displaying a false abundance or disdain, even though it is absolutely impossible to trick women. Women are so socially advanced that they cannot even describe why they feel the way they do.
They feel they way they do because of incongruence... plain and simple. They KNOW the man is desperate but he ACTS as though he is not. This comes off as disharmonious notes, being played together sounding like someone running their finger nails across a blackboard. This is the definition of "creepy."
Women have been doing this for so long, and it is so normal for them, that they cannot explain their facilities in words. It's all built into their social programming to such an extent that is hardwired skills that operate like there is an evaluation screen scanning body movements (like something you would see in a cyberpunk movie).
This is why a compliment from an older woman is so powerful. It is only given to an intrgrated man. It is only given to man who has "done the work." It is not given to men who try to lure women into dark alleys with shiny watches. It is respect and admiration for the time and effort they know you have spent on finding and accepting yourself.
And it is the ultimate compliment.
